~The Friendship Evolution~

When you think of friendships of past and present, do you ever think about my blog title? When you are younger and in high school you have your set group of friends, and you have your BFF. You make plans with your best friend and talk about going through life together and having kids at the same time..ect. In your heart, you really believe your friendship will last a lifetime. Unfortunately, it is a proven fact that a mere 20% of those friendships last. You may personally move in a different direction in your life, or your friend does. If you are the one that gets left behind in the friendship evolution, it can be a hard let down. How am I such a professional in this arena??? Well, all I have to say is... been there, done that!

Yes, (*tear*, *tear*), I have, more times than once, been the one left behind. I will start with example 1.  I had my high school best friend. We were so close and were 2 peas in a pod. We never fault and always had each other's back. That was true until college, sophomore year. She got a new, hot, older boyfriend. The boyfriend became the priority, situations pursued, and...well, that best friendship didnt last. Example 2: I met my soul sister(or, well, I thought) freshmen year in college. We met and we pretty much instantly clicked. Within no time we were inseperable! Something tragic happened to me, and I was almost killed in a car wreck. Things were so hard for me, but she was always there...at first. Guess what? She got a new boyfriend and began to change. This is a very long story that I cant even begin to get into.  All I can say is that the situation with her scarred me for life.  I am tearing up now just thinking about it. Wow, I didnt realize how hard it would be to talk about this! You guys have no idea how big of a step this is for me! These are emotions that have been building up for years!

Well, on to example 3: This best friend was not expected! haha..Lets just say that most of high school I was the butt of her many jabs! lol..The end of senior year we finally had a class together and she actually got to know me, and vice versa. You know what? We actually liked each other and became friends! Sophomore year in college she became my go to girl! We were the closest of friends and went through a lot together. She was like my sister.  In all honesty, she still is. She has been a constant in my life since college. Even during the other "best friend" ordeal, she was still there. She kind of graduated to "sister" in my eyes. Hmmm...I dont know if she even realizes that! Then, the friendship evolution started. haha..Yep...she got married. Now, I may see her a few times a year. She has new priorities and Im not a part of it. It really kills me, but I cant be angry about it. She fell in love and got married. When you get married your life changes. She started back college and got new friends. Those friends fit into her life better than I do, I guess. It is very sad for me, but its true.

I think that a lot of people can relate to this. Especially, if you are in the evolutionary short end of the spectrum! Lucky for me I have rebounded with a couple great friends. One I talk to probably 50 times a day about EVERYTHING! The other I dont see often due to both of our busy schedules, but I will ALWAYS have her back and I know without a doubt she will always be there. She is someone I went to school with starting in kindergarden! You know what??? We werent even friends in high school! Crazy, huh?! lol...Ah, if it wasnt for the great technologies of our time! haha

So, that is my "friendship evolution." Its life and it happens. If you are the one to evolve, you are happy and live a fulfilling life. If you are the one left behind, you are struggling for acceptance. You just have to learn to deal. Until next time, God Bless!!! : o)